The vast majority of my writing, thinking, and speaking, lean toward the positive aspects of inner growth and development.
I do this on purpose. As far as I am concerned, there is enough that happens naturally to bring us down so I spend my time and talent on what is uplifting.
But then there are moments that happen that are hard. Today I got a phone call that I did not want to get. Our struggle just got a little harder... again.
I have held the hands of many people going through tough times. I count it an honor when people trust me with their tears.
Of course, in so many ways it is easier to sit in my chair than theirs. That is why we so often feel alone in our struggles. Every story is different. Every situation is unique.
So it is time for some selfmedication.
I wrote this down earlier today in order to help me cope with how to handle what is happening.
Remember who you are. Selfawareness is hands down the most important lesson of the human condition. No matter how many challenges rage against you, the one constant in your many circumstances is you. Who we are is not dependent on what happens to us.
Remember this will pass. The worst thing that can happen when hard times come is to assume the lifestyle of a neverending victim. People forget that even the gut-wrenching trials of Biblical-proportion that Job faced were for a season and were not a lifestyle. The sun always shines again, even if it doesn't feel like it will today.
Remember you are not alone. When trying times come we often feel alone. This is an entirely common and understandable feeling, but it also isn't true. Perhaps it is only my eternal optimism speaking, but I am convinced that everyone has someone who cares.
They might not know it, or there might be a relational distance that seems impassable, but someone cares for you. In even the most extreme cases where one adamantly tries to convince me that no one cares, I strongly suggest that, indeed, someone does, they just haven't met them yet.
We aren't built to walk this life alone and it helps to remind ourselves of the human luxury of connectedness when life is hard.
This week, focus on the positive and uplifting, but remember that in the same way that we can't learn to walk by never having a fall, we don't learn strength by always having things easy. The path of health is one that is always fought uphill. Always.
This is, perhaps, the silver lining in the hard times we all face upon occasion.
" Dan Cousins is the lead pastor of Genesis Christian Centre, a growing young church in Nanaimo, and serves as chaplain for the Nanaimo Clippers. He can be reached at email@example.com
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